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Is Having A Family Still a Viable Goal?
Thoughts I would consider if I could do it all again
Recently I listened to a Reddit post where a man admitted during a marital counseling session that if he had to do his life over, he would choose not to have kids.
While he did love his own kids and will remain the best father he can be to them, caring for a family, doing a job he hates, and having marital issues were not the blissful life that was originally sold to him as a goal worth pursuing.
I get it. As a child growing up, marriage, kids, and a steady job was the life expectancy. If you had asked me back then, I would have listed housewife and mother as my only adult goals. Work was just the way to pay the bills. You did not have to like it, you just had to commit to the mind-numbing routine that sucked 40 hours per week from your soul so that you could supply the basic building blocks for life.
- Dutifully, catch up on chores on the weekend.
- Spend a few hours having fun on Saturday.
- Church / rest on Sunday with more chores.
- Get up Monday and do it all again. My own parents did that routine for 40+ years.
This was the model. This was the expectation. I did not know different or that it could be different…
