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Getting my shit together
I stopped these beliefs and got my life back on track
When my son went to high school, he was a pretty good student. His marks were decent but as parents, we knew he could do better. One day we got to talking and he admitted that he did not want to get better marks than the class average. He was sensitive and did not want to stand out from the other students. (So glad the class average was a B, lol). Thank goodness those days are passed.
,Those marks and wanting to keep the status quo taught him a lesson. Those kids have all gone on to live their lives untethered from high school so choosing to lower your standards for others in the end served little to no purpose.
We are social beings and we love to feel that we belong to something. That need can sometimes blind us into choices that do not serve our best interests. Bitter and angry, we throw a temper tantrum when we do not get the results that we had sacrificed for.
Before we know it, we have built up a pile of baggage that we lovingly drag through life and complain and blame others for our failure to thrive. Brené Brown once said that “Expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” We do need to play nice with others but never at the expense of lowering our life standards and beliefs.
